Wednesday, April 11, 2018

Gratitude

How often do we feel thankful for all the blessings in life? May be a lot of times. How often do we thank people behind those blessings in life? Not quite often.
And I wonder Why ? Sometimes it's sheer procrastination- a beautiful art of delaying things in perspective of doing it someday, sometimes it doesn't seem that necessary or may be lack of recognising the reason or people themselves. For whatever the reason may be, gratitude takes a backseat.

I always had this habit of thanking people for even the jobs that seem mundane. Quite often I would thank my mother and father for all the things they would do for me.  But I guess it is the thankfulness to those who do good beyond their capacity without any expectations.

So I write this as I owe thanks to a lot of reasons behind the blessings in my life.

1. My Family

Life has a sarcastic way of working itself out. I have been in many tough situations where I couldn't change or control much to my best. All I could do was to accept things will fall back in place, may be not the way I desire but may be in my interest. During these hard times, I am thankful I had my family in life and how grateful I felt consciously in that moment.

I am thankful to my Mum and Dad for bringing me into this world, supporting me when I failed and giving me the courage to face what may come. They have been my idol and my pillar of strength. Me and my brother call our Mum 'Champion'. Because she is one, in all sense: from running errands to standing as a pillar of strength after my Dad's demise. My Dad has been my mentor and my strength in thick and thin. He has held my hand when I needed the most without me saying a word to him and he had let me go when I needed to spread my wings. Without him, if I stand today is because of him.

My mum's sisters and brother, their spouses and children, uncles and aunts have stood by us in times of dire need. Their contagious energy and support has overflowed and rippled through our lives. We are such closely knit yet not poking into each others' space. It's a beautiful family I am grateful for and I truly appreciate their presence in our lives. The list entails my masis and their spouses, my mama and mami, my mum's uncles and aunts and my cousins especially Sakshi. I recall various moments when all I wanted was to cry my heart out and one person who supported me was Surbhi Bhabhi. My brother has always been a silent support for me when I was vulnerable and upset. My husband Manik has been a patient listener when my grieving was a mess and each day was insurmountably difficult.

2. People I don't know
Life is short and as much as we know it will come to an end, 'when' is lurking? I have seen people swarm our house at my Dad's sudden demise and then again at my Mother-in-Law's. At the time when you are picking yourself up to move from denial to acceptance of what has happened, there are some people you don't even know, never met before may be but may seem so connected. These people understand silence better than many other and are truly there for you on the darkest nights. These people truly deserve appreciation and a heartfelt gratitude. I have along list, my immediate neighbours, my mum and dad's acquaintainces, mostly acquired , some from sojourn journeys whilst other casual buddies, from my distant cousins and my mum in laws' neighbours.

3. People who have hurt me 
Sometimes people who hurt you bring about a change in life for which you later want to thank them. I have had people who haven't acknowledged my integrity and honest demeanour, my hardwork and painstaking efforts and in return has helped me find better opportunities, given a larger perspective in life and become a stronger person. Their intentional or unintentional moves have paved way for a better course of life. Wouldn't be a good idea to thank them in public, haha

With each passing day after my Dad's departure, I have become more grateful for what I have in life.
Life is too short to moan over petty issues. Not too short to thank those who truly deserve.


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